“Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.” ~Thomas J. Watson

Do you often beat yourself up for the things that you haven’t yet accomplished? The level you haven’t reached? The approval you haven’t received? The money you haven’t earned yet? Well you may be so busy wallowing in the downside that you haven’t allowed yourself to take in the wisdom with which defeat endows you. These are seven of the things that you won’t find successful people engrossed in:

 

1. Undercover.

Maybe it’s not exactly undercover; but those that tend towards ineffectiveness, tend to want to stay under the radar. They’re not involved in any secret work, but they’re hoping to be sort of a secret. People who are looking to be undiscovered, will get the outcome they are creating. Those that aren’t available when there’s work to be done are also the least likely to find success and happiness in their lives. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently”~Henry Ford. If you don’t try, you won’t fail-but you won’t have the opportunity to succeed.

2. Jealousy.

Successful people take responsibility for their life and their mistakes in order to make changes and proceed towards their goals. Unsuccessful people are often unhappy as an after effect of their refusing to take responsibility for lack of effort and achievement. They counterbalance by attempting to bring down the accomplishments of others. “The price of greatness is responsibility” ~Winston Churchill!

3. Passive-Aggressiveness.

Unsuccessful people go along with being part of the team. They act as though their working towards a common goal or “good”, but they’re acting; they’re not really doing any heavy lifting. “Success is no accident, it is hard work perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.”~Pele

4. Backbiting.

Sad, unsuccessful people instead of taking responsibility for their own mistakes and taking the actions and energy to improve themselves are so agonized by the success they see others delighting in, that they will deceive people that supposedly trust them as well as fiercely beat other people’s success down.

5. Avoidance.

Unsuccessful people tend to avoid problems that they don’t or should deal with-not dealing with things is not the road to improvement. Avoiding problems only increases the distance from the solution. The best way to break free of problems is to solve them. What is it that makes successful people different? Check out the book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. In this NYTimes best selling book, Malcolm Gladwell takes you on a journey through the world of “outliers”–the best and the brightest, the most famous and the most successful. He asks the question: what makes high-achievers different? His answer is that we pay too much attention to what successful people are like, and too little attention to where they are from: their culture, their family, their generation, and their experiences as they are being brought up. It’s very interesting what ingredients help to form the entire recipe. A most excellent read!

6. Distraction.

Unsuccessful people tend not to live in the moment, but in the past or the future. They may obsess about an argument that happened earlier in the day or a TV show that will be airing later that evening. If they’re at a meeting, and in the middle of an important conversation they will be distracted by something else, they’re less likely to be aware of what successful opportunities or enlightening information is being discussed. “It is easier to convert your time into products when you move away from any distractions.” ~Sunday Adelaja, How To Become Great Through Time Conversion: Are you wasting time, spending time or investing time?  Want to learn more? Check out the book.

7. Patronizing.

Unsuccessful people generally feel insecure about their own level of experience and proficiency…their general self worth. Often as a defense mechanism they will unconsciously try and make themselves feel superior by making other people feel lesser than. Successful people are delighted to share what they know, and to receive information from other people. Successful people talk about ideas; unsuccessful people talk about other people!

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