The success you want is out there for you. Do you know how to get it? We all have gone through our ups and downs…some of us in fact may feel as though we have been through more of the latter. Given my assemblage of both personal and professional experiences…having “been there, done that”, you can benefit from my experience and my mistakes, it keeps you from having to go through much of it first handedly. Here are some things you can do to take ownership of your success.
“Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it” ~Jules Renard
1. Saying No is OK.
We’re very afraid of conflict, we don’t like others to be angry with us or critical of us. We avoid saying “no” because we’re afraid that it will put us into conflict with other people. There is however, only so much of us to go around and we need to think about what it is we really want to participate in, beit invitations, new requests, even business opportunities. What is best for you? Saying NO is ok!
“We need to learn the slow ‘yes’ and the quick ‘no.” ~Warren Buffett
2. Admit When You’re Wrong.
When you are able to admit that you’ve been wrong, you can change the way others relate to you, it actually makes you a stronger leader…it instills trust in others. Admitting you’re wrong can show others that you value truth and having good relationships over never being wrong. This makes you not only trustworthy, but also approachable because others know that they too can admit their mistakes to you. It’s a win win.
“Tell the truth boldly, whether it hurts or not. Never pander to weakness. If truth is too much for intelligent people and sweeps them away, let them go; the sooner the better” ~Swami Vivekananda
3. Be More Amiable.
Emotional intelligence is a crucial skill for both leaders and employees. Several studies have shown how important Emotional Intelligence can lead to success, even over shining IQ and experience. Having the combination of both is quite a slamdunk. You never know where your business connections are going to come from and the ability to be sociable and make small talk on almost any subject matter really helps walk you down the road to success. Yes, of course it helps if this ability to mingle is innate, but the more you practice, the easier it will become.
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one”. ~Dale Carnegie
4. Better To Be An “ER” vs. An “EE”.
The suffix “er” is used when someone is responsible for creating action…for getting things done. The suffix “ee” is used when a person receives an action. Successful people (doers) wake up and already have a plan in mind for their day, while unsuccessful people (doees) scramble to figure out what they need to do next. Successful people’s goals are very focused-they are big, yet obtainable and are paralleled with their strengths. They know their capabilities and will invest all of their efforts in them, avoiding their weaknesses. They also are not afraid to learn.
“You have to set goals that are almost out of reach. If you set a goal that is attainable without much work or thought, you are stuck with something below your true talent and potential.” ~Steve Garvey
5. Be Bold About What You Want.
It’s ok to ask for what you want, it’s doesn’t mean you’re too aggressive, too needy, too cantankerous, too TOO. Very often people don’t achieve the success they want because they aren’t willing to ask for it. If you let people take you for granted, or overstep your personal boundaries, or you let them be disrespectful, you are in essence sending a message that you’re accepting of that behavior. It does require courage to ask, because you may feel you’ll be turned down. But won’t it be much more difficult to live with knowing that you never asked at all? Success is about having the courage to take the chance. If you don’t get what you think you deserve you can take it from there. At least you know your choices moving forward. That’s power! What do you believe?
“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!” ~Maya Angelou
6. Boost Your Confidence.
Do you stop yourself from taking advantage of opportunities and achieving the success that you’re capable of? If you had more confidence it wouldn’t be as much of a challenge; confidence is a belief in your ability to succeed. Without confidence you’re not able to propel yourself out of your comfort zone. These are 7 Tips You Need To Gain The Confidence You Need To Succeed.
“Inhale confidence, exhale doubt.”
Successful people have a vision for what they want to create…what opportunities they want to experience. Do you dream? Dreaming about your long-term career plan will help you stay on course and help keep you pointed in the correct direction. You can fine tune things as you go, but having that dream keeps your eye on the future.
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
8. Forget “I’m Gonna Get To It Soon”.
“Any day now, any day”, does that sound familiar? Does “I’ll do it tomorrow”, turn into a week or maybe a month for you? Are you thinking about your dreams? We all can get sidelined because of certain things that take precedence in our lives, but how many things do we let take precedence is the key? How many excuses are made? The best way to beat procrastination is create a schedule of the tasks you must do, keep yourself accountable and imagine how great you’ll feel once they are accomplished. It’s also helpful to have someone to which you’re accountable, be it a friend or a career coach. It’s much more difficult to disappoint others than to disappoint ourselves.
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