I’ve had quite a few reasons to throw in the proverbial towel, to jump off the track, to close the door, and to stop DREAMING. Back when I was just about 8 years old, I woke up one winter morning with large bruises covering most of what was a smaller me backe then for really no understandable reason at all-it’s not like the night before I had been engaged in a rock ‘em sock ‘em game of Twister, or had been slippin’ and a sliddin’ in my icy neighborhood park and had taken a bad fall. Without any reason, one extremely different morning, when I woke up and touched myself ever so lightly, I almost instantly developed a ginormous bruise. When I rubbed my eye, it started bleeding and it wouldn’t stop. I remember my understandably freaked out parents padding me in blankets and taking me to my pediatrician, and after many tests I was diagnosed with a rare hard to pronounce multi-syllabic blood disease. A year later and after a myriad of medications and treatments, I was able to rub myself just like all other young folks. I was able to play again with my friends. This very early learning experience helped me over and over again with challenges that I’ve continued to meet along the complicated road of life. It’s that saying “you pick yourself up, you dust yourself off, and you start all over again”. After those relatively tiny years, I’ve had other illnesses, I’ve had financial difficulties, business and partnership puzzles, but I’ve maintained a sense of positivity. I take one day at a time, and I think: “this too shall pass”. This has served me well, along with these 5 other ways to stay the course when you feel like you’re having trouble doing it, and stay on your road to success.
- Visualize what it is that you want to accomplish. I find it extremely purposeful to visualize what your goals are. Check out an earlier post about the 5 Essential Steps Successful People Know. See yourself in that place of splendor and satisfaction that you want to be when you get to where you want to be…feel it.
- A little goes a long way. We often get overwhelmed about how much we need to do, to the point that we can’t seem to get out of the box. If instead you tell yourself that you want to do one thing towards completing the whole, it makes it so much more doable. Once you do a little every day, it begins to become more of a habit. The best way to accomplishing what you want to accomplish and continuing “to stay the course” is one small, sweet step at a time. Maria Nemeth, Phd, inspiration speaker, and author in her book Mastering Life’s Energies: Simple Steps to a Luminous Life at Work and Play: “wrote if you were for instance wanting to write a book: if you were to write one paragraph a day…then two a day, then a page, finally writing three pages a day, you would essentially write three books a year.” It’s the continuity. It’s staying the course. It’s a little bit every day. It’s the positivity you feel about the accomplishment you obtain that keeps you moving forward and your doubts start to fade in the distance.
- Check in with yourself and your desires. If you’re having difficulty visualizing your goals and you’re finding even a little bit a day is too much, you have to ask yourself if this is exactly what you want to be doing. Like Roy Orbison said in his song “Drifting Away”, you may feel like you and your goal are “drifting apart, we can’t seem to work it out, what’s it all about?” If you’re feeling this way, it may be time to rejigger things. It doesn’t mean everything isn’t right, it may be that only a few things need to be changed. Take a look at what’s keeping you from moving forward? What is keeping you from feeling that sense of positivity that you need that propels you? A little bit can go a long way!
- Get by with a little help from your friends…or a coach/mentor. Having a neutral source to confide in about what you want to accomplish is extraordinarily valuable. It’s especially constructive to have someone keep you on track…someone to answer to. It is collaboratively inspirational; so you don’t feel like you’re out there all on your own. It keeps the positivity, encouragement, and enthusiasm level up at the times you feel them perhaps edging towards the more lower scale. “Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.”― Roger Crawford
- “I get knocked down, but I get up again”. Not sure how many reading this are familiar with the late 90’s Chumbawamba song “I Get Knocked Down”. As I mentioned, I’ve been through a lot, almost all people have been through bit of this or that-some have been through more than others, it could be age, it could be luck, it could be timing. Life is filled with all sorts of things…that’s what makes it life. If it wasn’t a mix, how would be know the difference between what’s great and what isn’t. When things don’t work out or aren’t going the way you want them to, you figure out why, you strengthen yourself, you find what you need to make happen…what you want to make happen…happen. You locate that positivity, you dig down deep and remember all of the positive qualities that you have. You stay the course of positivity and limit your doubts. In Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence by Rick Hanson, PhD, he shows you how to tap the hidden power of everyday experience to change your brain and your life for the better; this book helps you to beat your negativity. In a just a few moments every day you can turn your small experiences like the pleasure in your morning coffee, or the accomplishment in finishing an email, into lasting inner strengths built into your brain, such as resilience, balance, and positivity to become the SUCCESS YOU ARE MEANT TO BE!
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