IMG_09111. We can’t be happy all of the time. If we were, we wouldn’t know the difference. Acknowledge the sad side. It’s just as normal to feel insecure or concerned, as it is normal to feel excited or happy. It’s important to appreciate all that we’re going through, instead of beating ourselves up for what may not be working or happening soon enough. It’s part of your learning experience. Things can’t be pleasurable or uplifting all of the time. We have to ask ourselves what sacrifices we’re willing to accept to meet our goals? Our ability to stick with what we’re commited to, determines our ability to deal with the bad times and ride out those lousy days when they happen. How are you at doing that?

2. What do you love to do? Nevermind what other people think you do well. Don’t dwell on the fact that you think no one thinks you do anything well enough. What do YOU love doing? Have you lost track of what that is? Think back to when you weren’t swamped with the minutiae of life. Remember back to before you had to pay your bills, or before you chose your college major, or others told you they thought that you should pursue a certain career? Think back to before you “fell “ into a certain job path. What is it that you enjoy doing? Do you remember when you were a kid and liked to write, or build things, or solve problems, or entertain, or decorate, or cook, or bake? Think. It doesn’t matter that no one told you that you weren’t good at it, or that you didn’t think you were good at it. What matters is that you really, really loved doing it. Those things that you loved doing may very well be able to be applied to other activities or cognitive principles elsewhere. For instance, if you loved solving problems as a kid and telling other people what to do, you might love being a Producer, or a Manager, or an Event Planner. What did you love to do? What things to you love doing?

3. We all start somewhere. You may not like what you’re doing now, and that’s totally normal. We all move and grove at a different pace. Some of us find a job we love and stay for a long time. Others of us move around until we find the right job. Still others have to work at several different jobs, maybe even do a few different kind of things before they even have an inkling of what they want to be doing. We all try desparately not to embarrass ourselves but generally embarrassment is a part of the achievement equation. It has been written about extensively in Psychology journals that embarrassment signifies an understanding and desire to be normal which often reflects back in terms of dIMG_0913esiring to aid the plight of the group over the self-desires necessary to exhibit both trustworthiness and generosity. So if there’s something you want to do, or are thinking about doing, or you dream about doing, just do it. We all have our reasons to feel vulnerable. But if those reasons are based on what others will think, then you are being your own worst enemy. Embrace embarrassment. Being different is part of achieving something important, something different. Think of the entrepreneur’s whose products have become a success on the website Kickstarter, or those who have showcased their ideas on the TV show Shark Tank and gone on to become multi-million dollar businesses. Many people were broke before they became billionaires. Following something that is important to you…something that’s meaningful to you, is the path to achieving something important. The chances are the more a decision scares you, the more you need to be doing it.

4. Most of us until we get to a certain age or have been through a certain major medical tribulation don’t think about dying. If you did, what would it make you think of? Surprisingly, it has its advantages. I have spent a large part of my life thinking that way because I’m one of those people who have experienced medical tribulations. Since the time I was young , I have had one illness or another, and more recently about 7 years ago I was diagnosed with a very rare kind of brain cancer-which means a lot in the world of rare, since brain cancer is rare to begin with. I never take my time here in this world for granted, every day is to make the most of. What are people going to say about me when I’m no longer here? I don’t think I have years and years to paint that picture. I wake up every day and do what I can do create the best stories people can tell about me when I’m no longer here. Live life to the fullest. Don’t wait for the perfect day to do what you want to be doing. Today is that day.

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