There are reasons that get in the way of our being able to do exactly what we would like to do in our lives. Then there are those things that we create for ourselves. Can you think of any of those things? I just finished reading a book “The Four Agreements-The Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz in which he talks about Being Impeccable With Your Word, say only what you mean-avoid using the word to speak against yourself or others. He also says Don’t Take Things Personally-what others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. The other mention is Don’t Make Assumptions-find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstanding, sadness, and drama. And the last thing is to Always Do Your Best-your best is going to change from moment to moment, it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick, but under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self abuse and regret.
This information rings loudly and with enormous clarity to me. It is my understanding because of all that I have experienced personally that life is for living. How enormously empowering it would be, if we were able to resist pouring our energy onto the negative side? Life is too short. This is what I love about Life Coaching, it helps to find that path to positivity.
Just this week a very good friend of mine who it seems as though our spirits have been cosmically aligned…our oldest kids were born a week apart, when I was diagnosed with a brain tumor and sick in the hospital, her father was diagnosed with leukemia and was dying only a floor away in the same hospital I was be treated in, our beloved dogs have died within a month of each other-we have been through hard times, but we have also been through good times. This week my very good friend’s boyfriend who was on a remote hiking trip, fell and hit his head and died. He was 55. He was somebody who had lived his life to the fullest. He said what was on his mind, he did what he wanted to do (even though healthwsie some of those things he perhaps should not have been doing), he also did not take what others said personally. Life definitely has problems we can’t control, but there are others that we create. We have control over those things. Think about it.